Co-parents have the important job of making sure their children are raised in a supportive environment. It’s not always easy for them to get along, but it’s critical that they handle contentious matters appropriately.
There are several things that co-parents can do to make it more effectively possible to resolve conflicts. These tips are likely appropriate for conflict resolution in most co-parenting relationships.
Focus only on the children
The focus should always remain on the children. Thinking about how decisions about the children will impact either of the adults can lead to even more stress. If a parent is being inconvenienced to an unreasonable degree or their rights are being trampled on, it’s time to seek legal guidance, not to pick a fight.
Avoid living in the past
Living in the past can cause significant issues. For example, neither parent should become focused on what led to the end of the romantic relationship. Instead, focusing strictly on the co-parenting matters can help keep stress to a minimum.
Remain calm
Allowing emotions to rule when things get heated can make the situation devolve quickly. Staying calm is beneficial. One way to do this is to try to keep a professional attitude. This takes the emotion out of the matter so logic can rule. In some cases, such as when the other parent is narcissistic, keeping emotions out of these situations takes the power away from them since they thrive on evoking emotions.
Take a step back
Trying to push discussions when things are contentious can lead to both parties becoming more upset. Instead of doing this, it might be best to take a step back to take a look at the bigger picture. This may enable both parties to determine the most suitable way to resolve the matter in a way that’s best for the children.
When co-parents are working on the parenting plan, they can set conflict resolution methods. This document should also cover basic information about raising the children. Assigning decision-making responsibilities in the parenting plan can help to prevent issues in the future. Issues that can’t be resolved by the parents may inspire a need to seek legal guidance so that each party can better understand their rights and options.